today's pondering mind

"Every man is a piece of the continent, A part of the main.."


so, i heard a snippet of a radio program today about how some people want sealed adoptions unsealed. i'm not sure whether they were talking about just my state or if this is everywhere, but apparently there are a whole bunch of years of sealed adoptions that can't be unsealed unless they pass a new law.

the people being interviewed were so against these adoptions staying sealed, it was grating to me. and i guess i can see if you need some kind of health information, but you'd think there'd be a way to give a person that without divulging the identity of a birth parent.

i guess i just don't get it. i'm not adopted, of course. and i've never had a child who i put up for adoption. so i guess i'd be considered a neutral party. either that or someone who has no right to an opinion. probably the latter. but my opinion is this- the records should remain sealed as to identity unless the parent wants them unsealed so that they can be found if an adopted person is seeking.

one of my very best friends is adopted. maybe my most well-adjusted friend in the world. and she has never ever had the urge to look up her birth parents. true, she won the lottery with her adoptive parents, but she really just feels that there's no point in knowing. and she doesn't care. she has everything she needs to be happy in her life without that. i've never asked her how she'd feel if someday her birth mother came looking for her. i should. i'd be curious to know. i don't think she'd be that receptive though. but i don't know. i should ask her.

i know we're all connected in this world. but that doesn't mean we have to know everything about everyone, even ourselves, i think.

maybe, i think it's only important to know things if not knowing those things affects you somehow. otherwise i think you should leave it alone. and i just don't see how knowing whose body you came out of is all that important. who takes care of you is.